you've got yours & i've got mine

there's a series on the WE network called "the secret lives of women" and the particular episode that i'm watching right now is about swingers. when it started, i actually sort of understood what the people were saying. it's not something that i'm even slightly interested in, in any way, but i got where they were coming from. as the hour's gone on, however, i'm comprehending this less and less. most of the couples say that it's actually easier for them to stay together because there's no need to cheat, and it's all about openness and honesty and having fun and fulfilling...things. logically, i get that. one of the men on the show just said that one of the common misconceptions about swinging is that you are at a high risk of losing your partner, when in fact, statistically it is the opposite, and is so as well for everyone that they know. and i mean...okay. but i think you really have to be a certain type of person for it to work for you. we are sexual beings, yes. we are intelligent beings, yes. but we are also emotional beings. and i just think that whether or not this lifestyle works for you depends on your own personal balance of those three things. i, personally, am certainly emotional above all else. all of the people featured on this show appear to be far more sexual than ANYTHING else, which may seem an obvious thing to say, but it's not like i'm watching cinemax after dark or something. this is a documentary series on a basic cable chick channel. it's not sleazy or especially graphic, just very matter-of-fact. my point, i guess, is that i think that a great number of factors must be very specifically in place for this lifestyle to work. did youguys watch "loveline" when it aired on mtv? it started out fairly informative and interesting, despite adam corolla (i love adam corolla; just stay with me). but as it went on, it turned into this ridiculous circus and every other question was, literally, "my girlfriend and i are thinking about having a threesome. is that a good idea? should we do that?" and every. single. time, dr. drew would say, "no, it's a bad idea, it's VERY risky, you're probably going to ruin your relationship, DON'T DO IT." but they just kept on asking.

yeah, that's really all i have to say about that. i miss loveline.

speaking of loveline, before i got my webcam, arlan and i tossed around the idea of having a show similar to that, only like...neither of us is a doctor and it wouldn't become a crazy freak show. oh and also, it would be less about sex. you know, like a show where youguys could ask us relationship and love questions and we'd basically just give our advice and opinions, for whatever they're worth. i'm pretty sure we were thinking that arlan would be the adam corolla to my dr. drew, only, you know, funnier. me, not her. she's already funny. adam corolla's funny. you get it.

more soon.